Gordon Ramsay, famous TV chef who has an estimated net worth of $140M1, has four children who are 15-18 years old. But he’s not leaving them a dime. In his words, “It’s definitely not going to them, and that’s not in a mean way — it’s to not spoil them.”2

It’s a pretty bold statement. Certainly, some kids who grow up with money are spoiled. You might spot a few on the Instagram feed titled, ‘Rich Kids of Instagram.’

But the concern most parents have is simple — how will the kids handle the money? Will they just spend it?

There’s a fair amount of research on the topic. One study showed that “70% of family wealth is typically gone by the end of the second generation, and 90% is destroyed by the end of the third.”3

A Wall Street Journal article states that “the first generation works hard to create a fortune; the second generation enjoys its spoils, substituting hard work with entertainment, and the third generation—with no role model to follow—squanders what remains of the fortune. Unsurprisingly, when the family fortune is blown, family unity is typically obliterated along with it.”4

“It takes the average recipient of an inheritance 19 days until they buy a new car.”5

Why do they spend it?

Ok, we get that the money can be easily lost. But why? One article studied 3,250 families who had lost their wealth. It stated that “less than 3% said poor planning and investments were cause for reversal of fortune. 25% said heirs were unprepared, and 60% replied it was a lack of communication and trust in the family.”6

But this doesn’t mean you shouldn’t pass money along to your kids. It just means you should do it carefully.

Here are a few tips:

1.) Talk it out

It’s crucial to talk to your kids about money. Give them a crash course in financial literacy. Tell them how you handle your finances, what you save, and what you expect from them regarding an inheritance. This not only provides more structure, but can give them appreciation for the value of money.7

2.) Elephant in the room

Often a Will is created in secret without disclosing the details to the recipients. But this can backfire. Instead, parents should sit down with all of their children and go through the nitty-gritty of the Will. Get it out in the open and work through the details, possibly making adjustments along the way. Because eventually all of the kids are going to find out who got what anyway. By having open communication, you can avoid potential legal battles and family in-fighting later.8

3.) Make a family plan

According to one study, “Almost one-quarter of baby boomers think their kids will not be able to handle wealth properly until the ripe age of 40.”9 That’s why you should consider creating a financial roadmap for your kids. You can formally write out what you expect in terms of saving, spending, donating, and even growing their wealth.10


Whether you have a lot of money or only a little, be careful how you pass it on because this is where families can get it wrong. And this is what Chef Gordon Ramsey is likely worried about. The most important thing is to keep the family intact beyond any money considerations because, in the end, that’s what matters.

Rich Feight, CFP
Rich Feight, CFP

Hi, I'm Rich Feight I'm a fee-only Certified Financial Planner, successful business owner, and self-made millionaire that knows how to beat the system and become wealthy. I have a lot of clients that have done it too. I'm also pretty good at finding that ever-elusive work/life balance so many of us strive for. Lucky for you I have an abundant mindset and give all my knowledge away on my blog. So if you want to know what it takes to become a millionaire, follow me.